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Re: I want to be alone

Posted By: Jen <beastygalme2002@yahoo.com>
Date: 6 December 2009, at 7:06 p.m.

In Response To: I want to be alone (alone)

I am not sure where to start. It sounds like you've put up with a lot of crap. I am sure that's really hard but not to sound cliche but as they say, "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." I can understand how you could use drugs and such as a means of escape, but in the end it's not really an escape. It just keeps you on the same path as the rest of your family. It works as a temporary relief, but once you come off your "high" life is still just the same and risk the chance of making it worse with addiction. The rest of your family sounds like they have a lot of problems, but don't follow their example-you can stop it with you. I don't think you have as much influence over your aunts and uncles. So, I'd try to put them on the side for right now. As for your dad, have you talked about trying to get him in alcoholics anonymous or talked to him about that? I know that shouldn't be your responsbility, but he really needs help whether he sees it or not. Have you tried to talked to him about wanting to see more of the "real" dad. How old are you? Sometimes it can be scary to think about moving out, but do you think that might be what is necessary? Is it possible for you to move out soon? If he sees what he can lose and is losing then maybe that'll make him wake up to his problem? There is nothing really wrong with you. You sound like an awesome son to take care of him like that. I can't imagine how hard it would be that the one who is supposed to take care of you has to be taken care of all bloody and everything. I hear you about the girlfriend. What's confusing about the whole gf thing is you say you're afraid what "she'll do" but can it make you any more miserable than you are with her? I am a girl and we're complicated sometimes like I guess like say if you're out with your buddies and stuff- we want to feel like oh I bet he can't take his mind off me and then when you call it kind confirms that thinking I guess. It's weird and messed up ha but it's how it works. Guys and girls are really different on the talking thing and I guess we base how the guy feels on how long he wants to talk to us- like "Oh he hates me he only wanted to talk 10minutes or wow he loves me he spent 7 hours talking to me." LOL Maybe that's an exaggerated scenario but you get the idea. I know that seems silly cause maybe you just had a lot to do that you only had 10minutes. I guess we feel like if someone really loves us they want to spend all this time thinking about us and talking to us and always being there. HA. Guys aren't like that (maybe some are) and I guess it's hard for us to get. Don't stay with a bitch. I am not normally like a typical girl, but I get that part of us anyway. If you can't get your dad to listen to you, is there anyone else that can influence him? How's your relationship with the step mom? Try to ignore the other relatives behavior and not follow in their footsteps. I hope this was helpful. Email me if you want to talk more. I am glad you're venting.

Messages in This Thread

• I want to be alone (views: 47)
  alone -- 10 September 2009, at 3:13 a.m.
  • Re: I want to be alone (views: 66)
    A person -- 10 September 2009, at 10:11 p.m.
  • Re: I want to be alone (views: 43)
    Jen -- 6 December 2009, at 7:06 p.m.

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